Are you the wife of an addict?

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Are you the wife of an addict?

Call 1-888-525-9771 to discuss our innovative Addiction treatment for Couples on a case by case assessment.

The “partner” of the addict faces a life of hell. If you have a loved one who has a drug or alcohol problem chances are you have tried to help and found your efforts fruitless. Dealing with someone who is destroying their lives and causing harm to those they love is often a frustrating and lonely experience. Individuals in this position often suffer side effects that include:

  • Social Isolation
  • Stress related illnesses
  • Confusion
  • Memory Loss Guilt Shame
  • Fear Sleeplessness
  • Weight Loss/Gain

At Last Door we realize how the addiction of the primary client has affected those who love him. We recognize the need to involve loved ones actively in the recovery process and offer support and education to them. It has been said that addiction is a family disease, hence recovery itself is best accomplished from a family perspective.

We offer groups designed to education, support and include the wives/partners of addicts.

Video Transcription

Sue: I knew that something was off, and I didn’t I couldn’t connect anything because I didn’t know what I was looking for. And then uh, a friend, one of his best friends had called and had found out that he was using cocaine and um, and I was blindsided by it. I just remember not being able to breathe and you know, just not knowing what to do or how to handle things because no one teaches you what to do and then it was just a shock. And then we kind of, did the whole um, up and down roller-coaster for about three years I believe. Um, before he came to the Last Door. And then things started to change. The women’s group is a support group um, offered to any um, you know, spouses, girlfriends, of the guys and uh, you know, there are a lot of women that come and visit and it’s offered them to come and sit in be a part of, um, and for me it’s helped me be married to him. Whereas say the family support group was for my emotions and how I felt but I think the women’s group has allowed us to have communication together as a couple. Yes, you’re married to an addict or you are with an addict, but you’re going through trauma with them as well I guess right? Because there’s so many emotional things and um, you know, the person that you love is still under there but in addiction there’s somebody else and what I had a problem with was separating that and what kept me together was “oh no my husband’s under there somewhere,” you know. And, you know, the Door gave me him back and in a way he’s better than I thought he was, you know? He’s kind, he’s respectful, and today he’s a accountable. He’s responsible. And he’s not afraid to say I’m sorry or say that he’s wrong and at the same time because of the things I’ve learned, I’m not afraid to say that I was wrong too. So I think that, you know, through all this, definitely not what I thought a life would be, um, but, I’m grateful for where we’re at today. For me I lost a part of who I was. During that time, but, um, you know the hope through it all was that I was able to heal. He was able to heal. You can move on and live life past addiction. For me that’s one thing that is a really important lesson that we’ve learned here.