Self Test for Codependency

Do you find yourself constantly worried about other people’s problems?

When someone else acts inappropriately, do you often feel guilty or embarrassed for him or her?

Is it hard for you to say no when somebody asks you for help?

Do you remain loyal, even if another person or situation is harmful to you?

Do you find it hard to hold personal boundaries with other people?

Is other peoples’ approval very important to you?

Do any of your relationships cause you to lose sleep, be stressed out, or lose motivation for other things in life?

After a fight or disagreement, do you feel like you must get even?

After winning an argument, do you feel you need to restate your point?

Have you ever borrowed money to finance another person’s addiction?

Do you feel reluctant to do things that you find important because it may cause an argument or disagreement?

Have you ever dragged old hurts into current conversations?

Have you ever committed, or considered committing, a crime to finance someone’s addiction?

Do arguments, disappointments or frustrations give you an urge to change someone else?

Do you often sacrifice your own needs to care for your loved one?

Do you often give your partner/spouse money or make excuses for his/her behavior?

Do you believe that you can fix (or are responsible for) your loved one’s addiction and/or mental illness?

Do you often feel that your mood is affected by your partner/spouse’s mood?

Does the thought of ending your relationship terrify you, despite all its problems or how you feel about it?

Did you ever have an idea that if loved ones would only see things your way, life would be much better?